Dancing a life fantastic

thegardenparty:

bebopdeluba:

• They don’t have to worry about what they wear, their hair, their make-up or their appearance beyond general hygiene and health
• They get to be fathers without carrying a child in their bodies for the best part of a year.
• As the father they get their dinner made for them, they don’t have to do much housework such as washing the dishes or clothes. They get all the good stuff without the pain.
• They don’t have to deal with sexually agressive comments on a daily basis.

This is ridiculous. 

• I think I can speak for most men that we DO worry about our hair and what we wear. 
• You get the PRIVILEGE of being a mother; to have something grow inside you, a new life start. A baby is fed by you, the cells are grown from your body, each day you are giving it life. Most women complain about childbirth before actually going through it, and those that do go through it, say it was painful, but worth it. Do you even know what it is like to go through childbirth? NO. You don’t. Talk to me about it when you go through it. I would go through it for my child, because I know I would love them. You might think that I am just saying that because I would never actually have to go through it, but I plan to be there by wife’s side when she does, and the best I can do is be there for her, so that is what I will do.
• My father, mother, sister and I all share the housework, usually me or Eva doing the dishes since mum and dad are working most of the day. Sometimes we forget but I feel like I have let them down when I do, because they are working so hard to help pay me through University. In fact, my Dad will make dinner for Mum coming home quite often, but mum would do the same if the roles were reversed and Dad was working more. In fact it is a little sexist to think that Dads are always the bread-winners, for my Dad is not, but there is nothing wrong with that.
• What areas are you walking through? Brooklyn NYC? Just because some scumbag says something crude doesn’t mean it is solely because you are a woman and men like to pick on you. If I walked past that kind of person with long hair they would say something about me being a hippie or I looked like a woman, anything to get a rise. Men get attacked and killed because they are just standing there and someone likes to fight while women get rapped because the same scumbags cannot control their behaviour - both are terrible crimes.

EDIT: In other words; embrace what you have, instead of thinking the grass is greener on the other side because it is exactly the same. 

 So given the choice, you would chose to be the parent who goes through the pain, stretch marks, hormonal changes and other things rather than being the parent who gets the good stuff. I’m sure most women say it is worth it, because they don’t get to avoid it. It’s just an unchangeable fact of life.

Also, what sparked this post was the fact that my dad who works very hard at his job, gets to come home to dinner on the table, leave when it’s finished and relax with a book/tv/computer. If my life ends up in this place where I can work at a job I enjoy all day, and come home to do nothing then I will want for nothing. Somehow I don’t see this happening though, as clothes will not magically wash themselves, nor will the dishes, rooms will not tidy themselves and left to it’s own devices, the whole house will get dusty.

Also, men do not get harassed as often or as much as women in the street. I’m not saying I get abused or anything, but having comments thrown at you everyday as you are quietly minding your own business is just something that irritates me beyond belief. Yes, men might have comments made towards them, but I think that these would be occasional, and not concentrated on sex. If someone wanted to comment on how I walked in a non-normal way or how my hair was not conventional, then it would be a refreshing change to “Here, love, come here and talk for a minute”.

I find it both a pain and a privilege that I have such a variety in what I can wear and what I can do with my appearance. Men are limited in that regard. I just find it irriatating that a girl is judged on a day when she can’t be bothered to wear make-up, nice shoes or put effort into her appearance. The connotations of a man not taking care with his appearance for a day is not the same as for a woman.

That all said, I don’t have an active desire to become a man. I’m just saying that life is easier for a man. Women do have it harder, but, much like childbirth, it is a fact of life and in the end, it’s worth it.